Beating the stay-at-home Blahs
Posted by Neodad on November 17, 2009
Well, happy Tuesday. At least it better be, dammit.
I haven’t been writing much of late, and it’s irritating me. To be honest, a lot of things are irritating me these days. I don’t know if it’s pre-winter blues, the move to Thompson, or what. But I’ve gotta shake it, cause I don’t like the feeling.
So what to do? I am searching my scrambled brain for the things that make me happy. Things that give me a boost, a lift. Right now, a trip to a tropical location is out, so we’ll put that one on the back burner.
So far, I’ve rearranged the master bedroom. Neomom, who’s finding herself in a similar state of mind, has rearranged the boys’ bedrooms. I’ve also taken on the long overdue task of hanging pictures around the house of family, friends, good times. If my family can’t be here in person, at least I can see them in the photos, smiling at my brother’s wedding, in my other brother’s back yard, at my wedding. These thing are all good for the soul.
An artist friend of mine uses a quote on her web site “Science will dictate the future, Art will gladden its soul.”
I like that thought. And, as such, I visit her blog site every morning and, you know what? It’s true. She paints and posts a new work of art (almost) every day. This was my plan for this blog, (daily posts) but I have not kept up with Kim. You can check out her work, by the way, at http://www.eatdrinkpaint.blogspot.com/. She’s currently running a contest and giving away one of her paintings each week. You just send an email telling her which one you like each week and your name goes in a weekly draw. If your name is chose, you win your painting. I encourage you to check it out.
In any case, back to fighting the blahs. We’ve got two more rooms in the house that need some serious rearrangement, and I’m going to be tackling those in the coming weeks. The rec room needs a couch, some photos . . . we basically need to make it ours. Right now, it’s just kind of a kids playroom with a treadmill stuck in the corner. I need to make it a warm, comfy place where I want to hang out.
The living room, as well, seems a tad sterile and uninviting. There’s something about hardwood and white walls that’s just not cozy.
So that’s step one – changing my environment to better suit me.
For step two, I think I’ve gotta take a page from Mr. Mom, the 80s movie starring Michael Keaton and Teri Garr. As much as some of my stay-at-home dad colleagues hate the title, and as much as it was “just a comedy” there is some truth to it.
At the turning point of the film, Keaton decides he’s gotta get back in the game, mentally. He’s gotta get up each day, shave, shower and own the role and title of Mr. Mom.
I admit I’m not shaving daily and kind of look like an unmade bed most days. And, I suppose, if you look that way, you’re more likely to feel that way.
And finally, step three. I need to find something, (and time for something) in addition to writing, to do. I need a hobby— maybe get back into my photography and attempt to take, and post, a photo a day to go with the blog.
So there you go. My three-step plan to get my head together. Today will, admittedly, be a rough one to start with, as Sontoo got me up at 3 a.m. and I have not been back to sleep. But that’s life, it’s my life and I’ve just gotta own it. I have so much to be thankful for. Time to concentrate on the good stuff.
Happy Tuesday!

Looks like you are at least attempting to do something about it which is a good sign. There are a couple things I do that help me when I get into the blahs. One… I dress up as if I am going to a nice job. It’s not ideal for changing diapers etc but wear nice pants, button up shirt, and even a tie. Nice shoes. The first day you will feel stupid and weird.. out of place. But each day wake up, get dressed, etc. Sometimes in the afternoon I will go upstairs and change my shirt and my socks. Slap on some cologne.
The other thing is finding time in the evenings to get some exercise. If I can spend an hour just going for a nice fast walk my mind is set free. A lot of my creative thoughts come out during this time and you begin to look forward to that time every day.
November 17th, 2009 at 10:02 am